"Single live intrauterine gestation , fetal cardiac activity noted " -----long ago i did this scan on a patient and though routine for a radiologist this one was different . It was of a friend i knew who came with her boyfriend and the fact that both persons were known to me made a difference . Not in the report , not even in my perceptions of them but about our soceity .
Years have passed our soceity has developed in so many ways , has become high tech , has more liberal thoughts open to them through television and internet . The advancement has become so much that many people spend hours on the net and television imbibing the liberal views and progressive minds .
But the question arises have we really progressed or deteriorated ? To take the case of virginity as a specific example can either of these couple in question (though unmarried i would call them couple only as they were in a relationship at that time ) openly tell their family or future spouse what happened to them . The main reason they are silent is because the soceity at least kerala soceity has very strict moral standards even now . Notwithstanding the high testersterone levels which is shown in TV ( full of sex scandals by married people not only politicians ) when it comes to a young person in a loving relationship coming out with being "not a virgin " the moral police is upon them irrespective of the state of mind they are in .
Both these people in question are now married not to each other but to different people . I dont think they have confessed even to their spouses about this . The question is however "moral " we are what is the guarantee that your wife or husband is a virgin at the altar of marriage . It doesnt matter at all for a person like me but why dont we be honest with ourselves about it . A few months back another person told me about the horrible experience she had when she had to undergo an abortion when the moral police was taunting her asking her to justify what happened to her .
Another related issue is the question of male virginity . Our soceity insists so much on female virginity while the male virginity is not given any high moral standards . Moving towards a more equal soceity (who is moving :) ) isnt it high time that if female virginity is given a premium why shouldnt the male also be subject to the same moral standards (if we have any except the false morality ). The term pathivratha itself is feminine and openly says about our double standards . Why not a pathivrathan ?
One of the most beautiful things in this planet is a relationship ( not the loveless business deals which personify some marriages ) and as a corollary the physical part of the relationship is entirely the perview of the people concerned. And help them if they are in trouble instead of taunting them .
Blog is dedicated to all the moral people who are ostriches and also to the "immoral" people whom i admire for their honesty in coming out ......
Years have passed our soceity has developed in so many ways , has become high tech , has more liberal thoughts open to them through television and internet . The advancement has become so much that many people spend hours on the net and television imbibing the liberal views and progressive minds .
But the question arises have we really progressed or deteriorated ? To take the case of virginity as a specific example can either of these couple in question (though unmarried i would call them couple only as they were in a relationship at that time ) openly tell their family or future spouse what happened to them . The main reason they are silent is because the soceity at least kerala soceity has very strict moral standards even now . Notwithstanding the high testersterone levels which is shown in TV ( full of sex scandals by married people not only politicians ) when it comes to a young person in a loving relationship coming out with being "not a virgin " the moral police is upon them irrespective of the state of mind they are in .
Both these people in question are now married not to each other but to different people . I dont think they have confessed even to their spouses about this . The question is however "moral " we are what is the guarantee that your wife or husband is a virgin at the altar of marriage . It doesnt matter at all for a person like me but why dont we be honest with ourselves about it . A few months back another person told me about the horrible experience she had when she had to undergo an abortion when the moral police was taunting her asking her to justify what happened to her .
Another related issue is the question of male virginity . Our soceity insists so much on female virginity while the male virginity is not given any high moral standards . Moving towards a more equal soceity (who is moving :) ) isnt it high time that if female virginity is given a premium why shouldnt the male also be subject to the same moral standards (if we have any except the false morality ). The term pathivratha itself is feminine and openly says about our double standards . Why not a pathivrathan ?
One of the most beautiful things in this planet is a relationship ( not the loveless business deals which personify some marriages ) and as a corollary the physical part of the relationship is entirely the perview of the people concerned. And help them if they are in trouble instead of taunting them .
Blog is dedicated to all the moral people who are ostriches and also to the "immoral" people whom i admire for their honesty in coming out ......
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