"Friend in need is a friend indeed " . " If friend is good you dont need a mirror " . I think there is even romance wont surpasses friendship in number of quotations .
Recently i saw one of my friend in facebook commenting about how he recently decided to spend quality time with his "real friends " instead of spending time with his aquaintances who use him only during "their " tough times and conveniently forget him during their good times . I am so happy that he used the term "aquaintance " for this category which all of us with a good heart are familiar . Though the term friend is used ubiquitously these days actually it is one of the most misused words .
We all know we have lot of friends but pause for a moment and think how many of them were there with you when you needed help ? Ideally friendship is mutual but as many of us are familiar often there are many friends who are just on a superficial level and there are a few who make the relationship intense for their needs . For them you are their close friend (who doesnt love to be surrounded by close friends : its so ego boosting ) but if you reflect on the friendship they are not your close friend . Just like a great overtalkative person after an hours talk assumes he had a great conversation these one way relationships are not the real close friendships .
A week back i had a friend who was publicly telling on facebook how he felt betrayed by his close friend and how he lost trust in friendship . I am not saying that close friends are infallible but 99 percent of the time this friend must have been betrayed by a "one way close" friend whom he assumed was his bosom buddy .
I am nowhere a great expert on friendship but i have seen all degrees of friendship and inspite of knowing the above fact clearly have occassionally felt betrayed by "close " friends of the kind described above . But i never felt that i should never have close friends again but decided i will keep my eyes open for signs of "true mutual close " friendship and the "one way close " friendship . And though a big topic let me stop for now by saying a big thanks to one of my friends in MBBS and a friend whom i know for sometime now who really made me understand the true value of close friendship . And also thanks in a negative way to one close friend who didnt betray me but showed what is "one way close "friendship .Let me end with a quote
Recently i saw one of my friend in facebook commenting about how he recently decided to spend quality time with his "real friends " instead of spending time with his aquaintances who use him only during "their " tough times and conveniently forget him during their good times . I am so happy that he used the term "aquaintance " for this category which all of us with a good heart are familiar . Though the term friend is used ubiquitously these days actually it is one of the most misused words .
We all know we have lot of friends but pause for a moment and think how many of them were there with you when you needed help ? Ideally friendship is mutual but as many of us are familiar often there are many friends who are just on a superficial level and there are a few who make the relationship intense for their needs . For them you are their close friend (who doesnt love to be surrounded by close friends : its so ego boosting ) but if you reflect on the friendship they are not your close friend . Just like a great overtalkative person after an hours talk assumes he had a great conversation these one way relationships are not the real close friendships .
A week back i had a friend who was publicly telling on facebook how he felt betrayed by his close friend and how he lost trust in friendship . I am not saying that close friends are infallible but 99 percent of the time this friend must have been betrayed by a "one way close" friend whom he assumed was his bosom buddy .
I am nowhere a great expert on friendship but i have seen all degrees of friendship and inspite of knowing the above fact clearly have occassionally felt betrayed by "close " friends of the kind described above . But i never felt that i should never have close friends again but decided i will keep my eyes open for signs of "true mutual close " friendship and the "one way close " friendship . And though a big topic let me stop for now by saying a big thanks to one of my friends in MBBS and a friend whom i know for sometime now who really made me understand the true value of close friendship . And also thanks in a negative way to one close friend who didnt betray me but showed what is "one way close "friendship .Let me end with a quote