Let me start with a wild example . There was a hunter who saw a harmless looking animal . He took aim at the first one a deer and shot it and injured it . Poor thing it fled away from him with the injury . After sometime he saw another harmless looking animal a wild pig . He took aim and shot it and injured it (he was a bad shot as ever ) . This time this harmless animal instead of running away attacked him so viciously that he was hospitalised for two months .
Ok this book is not about wild pigs and deer . But personalities in love is a book about human personalities specifically the 4 main types of personalities in people we interact with . Even if you dont agree with theory of personality and claim that each one of us is unique it is true that people can be broadly be classified into how they deal with the world --- introvert and extrovert being the classic example .This book is based on principle that humans are mainly four broad different categories . She calls it the Popular , the Powerful , the Perfect and the Peaceful . She herself tells that this classification was not made by her but 2000+ years back by the great physician Hippocrates father of modern medicine . He used different terms like Sanguine, Phlegmatic etc for the same but the core idea is the same . A casual observation around you whether in personal relationship or work life will show these 4 types in action . Sanguines or Popular is the type who is the classic life of the party the fun loving types who attract people with their story telling . Powerful is the type who are seen controlling other people . Perfect is the perfectionistic types whose whole life is around perfectionism and orderliness . Peaceful is the type who literally lives for others . Each personality has its strengths and weaknesses and is illustrated in this book with numerous examples especially since she is a motivational speaker who has toured 6 continents .
What makes this book more interesting is that the author reveals her character also with all its strengths and weaknesses in this book . The book may help the reader in understanding the people in their life and what motivates them . (so that you can supply the carrots which each personality likes : if you know what i mean ) . Ideally this may help in dealing with the sanguines who like to talk and talk about themselves and who craves approval , the powerful control freaks who wants unquestioning obedience from others , the perfectionistic people who are wants perfection from all and the peaceful who though a great personality will faintly acknowledge when someone tells they have climbed Mount Everest . (in short too little enthusiasm ).
She tells that always focus on the positives of each personality type and she being a devout christian repeatedly says about prayer as a solution . But whether prayers will change or help deal with control freaks and incessant talkers is a different matter but if you believe knowledge is power : this book is definitely a good book ( i give it a score of 8/10 ) . And now hopefully you understood why i told about the deer and the wild pig ?
And a little secret : :) this is a book written for women in understanding their husbands and just like the malayalam magazine vanitha(a womens magazine ) is sneakily read by the men in the house i too wanted to know what these women are upto in learning about mens personalities ... :) but instead found a real gem in personality profiles of both men and women in different realms be it career , love or in other relationships ..
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Ok this book is not about wild pigs and deer . But personalities in love is a book about human personalities specifically the 4 main types of personalities in people we interact with . Even if you dont agree with theory of personality and claim that each one of us is unique it is true that people can be broadly be classified into how they deal with the world --- introvert and extrovert being the classic example .This book is based on principle that humans are mainly four broad different categories . She calls it the Popular , the Powerful , the Perfect and the Peaceful . She herself tells that this classification was not made by her but 2000+ years back by the great physician Hippocrates father of modern medicine . He used different terms like Sanguine, Phlegmatic etc for the same but the core idea is the same . A casual observation around you whether in personal relationship or work life will show these 4 types in action . Sanguines or Popular is the type who is the classic life of the party the fun loving types who attract people with their story telling . Powerful is the type who are seen controlling other people . Perfect is the perfectionistic types whose whole life is around perfectionism and orderliness . Peaceful is the type who literally lives for others . Each personality has its strengths and weaknesses and is illustrated in this book with numerous examples especially since she is a motivational speaker who has toured 6 continents .
What makes this book more interesting is that the author reveals her character also with all its strengths and weaknesses in this book . The book may help the reader in understanding the people in their life and what motivates them . (so that you can supply the carrots which each personality likes : if you know what i mean ) . Ideally this may help in dealing with the sanguines who like to talk and talk about themselves and who craves approval , the powerful control freaks who wants unquestioning obedience from others , the perfectionistic people who are wants perfection from all and the peaceful who though a great personality will faintly acknowledge when someone tells they have climbed Mount Everest . (in short too little enthusiasm ).
She tells that always focus on the positives of each personality type and she being a devout christian repeatedly says about prayer as a solution . But whether prayers will change or help deal with control freaks and incessant talkers is a different matter but if you believe knowledge is power : this book is definitely a good book ( i give it a score of 8/10 ) . And now hopefully you understood why i told about the deer and the wild pig ?
And a little secret : :) this is a book written for women in understanding their husbands and just like the malayalam magazine vanitha(a womens magazine ) is sneakily read by the men in the house i too wanted to know what these women are upto in learning about mens personalities ... :) but instead found a real gem in personality profiles of both men and women in different realms be it career , love or in other relationships ..
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Hi Haroon
ReplyDeleteInteresting review. So to your discerning eye what does my personality look like? :)
I dont flatter people though i may seem to be for some ... You have traits of both perfect and peaceful in that you are thoughtful in your sales blogs (a perfect personalitys trait ) and i feel you are really wanting to do good to others (a peaceful trait ) .
ReplyDeleteGenerally in sales and marketing we have enough and more of the popular and powerful types and you are really a welcome change :)
Classifying people in broad categories is alright if you don't extrapolate your findings. i.e. expect that a person who falls under a certain category, according to some of his traits, need necessarily have all the traits shown by people in that category. Like Haroon nana mentions (indirectly) in his previous comment, people are a mix.
ReplyDeleteVery well said and thanks for the thoughtful comment . Yes we shouldnt compartmentalise people but study of personality helps to make some sense out of many peoples behaviour . It also partly explains while we greatly gel with some people but not with others . I was surprised when one of my close friend and a close cousin turned out to have a key personality trait in MBTI (refer internet ) which i have in common with them . More on that on the next blog ...
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