"Friend shall i erase you ? " One of my close friend is telling me an year back . I look at his hand .He has a weapon in his hand and his finger on the trigger ... Knowing him i didnt shudder and i was laughing when i saw the weapon ... He has a habit of deleting names from his contact list of his mobile of people whom he know but who he has created more trouble for him in the name of "friendship" than good .
Of course he was joking to me and both of us were laughing but i know he has deleted at least a few from his contact list earlier . You may have your own opinion regarding this. Though not a very practical solution at least as he says " it gives some satisfaction " and i have to agree with him...
I have a different version of this in my habits . Being in radiation field we are used to time, distance, barrier whenever we deal with radiation . When we minimise these three variables the effect of radiation is very minimal .
Look around you be it your personal life or worklife . You know some people who are really good to others . many who are ok and a few who are really toxic . We all have our own methods of dealing with the toxic category but i have seen many people who unnecessarily be in too much stress because they deal with the toxic people .. (people who are rude to everyone , who make fun of others too much etc ) .
But just like radiation their effect can be really minimised by using principles of radiation safety . Spend minimum time with these people ( give lots of excuses ... its worth it ) , distance ( avoid as much as possible and preferably sneakily or not so sneakily walk away ) and barrier (keep other people between you and the toxic person preferably one who is more resistant to rudeness etc ) .
The other option is as my friend does ... Of erasing from the mobile contact list ..
You must be thinking my friend must be left with only a few friends after deleting all the toxic ones . I think still the world is filled more with good people that our contact list and even facebook contact list is relatively full .......
Dedicated to my close friend ---The Eraser ...
Of course he was joking to me and both of us were laughing but i know he has deleted at least a few from his contact list earlier . You may have your own opinion regarding this. Though not a very practical solution at least as he says " it gives some satisfaction " and i have to agree with him...
I have a different version of this in my habits . Being in radiation field we are used to time, distance, barrier whenever we deal with radiation . When we minimise these three variables the effect of radiation is very minimal .
Look around you be it your personal life or worklife . You know some people who are really good to others . many who are ok and a few who are really toxic . We all have our own methods of dealing with the toxic category but i have seen many people who unnecessarily be in too much stress because they deal with the toxic people .. (people who are rude to everyone , who make fun of others too much etc ) .
But just like radiation their effect can be really minimised by using principles of radiation safety . Spend minimum time with these people ( give lots of excuses ... its worth it ) , distance ( avoid as much as possible and preferably sneakily or not so sneakily walk away ) and barrier (keep other people between you and the toxic person preferably one who is more resistant to rudeness etc ) .
The other option is as my friend does ... Of erasing from the mobile contact list ..
You must be thinking my friend must be left with only a few friends after deleting all the toxic ones . I think still the world is filled more with good people that our contact list and even facebook contact list is relatively full .......
Dedicated to my close friend ---The Eraser ...
'Little thoughts' full of practicality and wisdom. It is probably impossible to completely cut out such people from our lives, but it is very important to not let them have a significant bearing on our quality of life. If we let them affect us, they can come in the way of our happiness and productivity. I think your points on time, distance and barrier go a long way in achieving this.
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