Rahul Gandhi and Narendra Modi ..........
Today when i opened the yahoo homepage on the right hand side there was a political comparison of Rahul Gandhi and Narendra Modi ... Though there are stark political contrasts between the two men , there was a similarity between them which both of them and you also will agree . And that similarity is shared by Mr Tata , Lata Mangeshkar , Asha Parekh . Any guesses ??
Ok final clue --- it is shared by our previous president APJ Abdul Kalam ...
Yes , they are all unmarried .... And being from the medical field at least i know Mr Tata , Lata Mangeshkar and Asha Parekh has non profit hospitals in their name doing service to humanity . This is in addition to Tatas greatness in bringing india to the world map of cars with Nano , Lata Mangeshkar for singing the greatest romantic melodies and Asha Parekh for being a great actor of yesteryear .
This introduction is because time and again i have been asked why i am unmarried . And after my "smile " for an answer ---( i dont discuss my personal life with casual acquaintances and distant relatives ) there is a lecture on why marriage is the utmost necessity .. I agree that marriage is a good thing but i starkly disagree with some points given in the lectures . Surprisingly , the lectures have many common points ( Did they all attend the same school :) )
The points are
1 . In old age no one will take care of an unmarried person : I have found that so many people whom i know of in their 60 s live alone either because their spouse is no more and their children are busy with their lives often in far away lands . . And i know of some old people who inspite of having children in the same district are hardly visited upon . And some of these people have 5 plus children . To get a fairer view point as recent as three days ago , myself and two friends were discussing the relationship of parents and newage kids . Both of them were telling me about the "I " and " me " culture of recent times which they have observed and the increasing private lives kids were preferring beyond age of ten years nowadays . . And though i am not at all against marriage i think this lecture point is totally irrelevant .Whether you will be taken care of in old age depends on many factors . One more point to add is that , if you are a nice human being there are greater odds that you will have a pleasant old age ---children or no children .
2. You will have nothing to look forward to ---life will be boring ...Time and again i have seen many people who are "too busy " to have a family life though they are married . Again i have seen some people who dont have any altruistic interests . Not only the great personalities listed above , i have seen all the unmarried people i know having greater interest in social wellbeing and uplift . And in doing so they have something to look forward to .
3. Unmarried people have major commitment issues ... This rewinds me back an year or two when i used to know two people . One person confided in me that she is very unhappy that her husband is repeatedly getting committed to colleagues inspite of being "happily " married . In another case it is the woman who is getting "committed " to outside forces . My point is , these are not isolated siberian cranes .
4 . Companionship ........... I am not an anti-marriage activist and this point i agree . In an ideal marriage ( i have seen some ) its great companionship . But to these lecturers , i show them many (yes there are many ) examples of "happily married " people who are actually in it for to put it bluntly -- married because they tied the knot . Due to the stigma of divorce in indian society and because even nowadays women put up a lot to preserve the marital bond --some of these "marriages" survive .. In the west they call these loveless marriages . So companionship being an ideal goal cannot be included in the lecture ...
5. In our religion it is cumpulsory ---hmm ... the same religion tells how a woman should be treated .Is it being followed ? . And the finer things like men can marry four while women only one --- i cannot logically agree .
On a lighter note , all married people were in the unmarried state before, so should not force bachelors to marry by giving long lectures with partially valid points .
And regarding myself again : I am in no way an anti-marriage proponent but against the hypocrisy going around surrounding many marriages and the boring lectures i get . One thing is sure --whether i get married or remain unmarried i will not kill anyone --- with boring lectures .
please comment ...
regards
haroon
Today when i opened the yahoo homepage on the right hand side there was a political comparison of Rahul Gandhi and Narendra Modi ... Though there are stark political contrasts between the two men , there was a similarity between them which both of them and you also will agree . And that similarity is shared by Mr Tata , Lata Mangeshkar , Asha Parekh . Any guesses ??
Ok final clue --- it is shared by our previous president APJ Abdul Kalam ...
Yes , they are all unmarried .... And being from the medical field at least i know Mr Tata , Lata Mangeshkar and Asha Parekh has non profit hospitals in their name doing service to humanity . This is in addition to Tatas greatness in bringing india to the world map of cars with Nano , Lata Mangeshkar for singing the greatest romantic melodies and Asha Parekh for being a great actor of yesteryear .
This introduction is because time and again i have been asked why i am unmarried . And after my "smile " for an answer ---( i dont discuss my personal life with casual acquaintances and distant relatives ) there is a lecture on why marriage is the utmost necessity .. I agree that marriage is a good thing but i starkly disagree with some points given in the lectures . Surprisingly , the lectures have many common points ( Did they all attend the same school :) )
The points are
1 . In old age no one will take care of an unmarried person : I have found that so many people whom i know of in their 60 s live alone either because their spouse is no more and their children are busy with their lives often in far away lands . . And i know of some old people who inspite of having children in the same district are hardly visited upon . And some of these people have 5 plus children . To get a fairer view point as recent as three days ago , myself and two friends were discussing the relationship of parents and newage kids . Both of them were telling me about the "I " and " me " culture of recent times which they have observed and the increasing private lives kids were preferring beyond age of ten years nowadays . . And though i am not at all against marriage i think this lecture point is totally irrelevant .Whether you will be taken care of in old age depends on many factors . One more point to add is that , if you are a nice human being there are greater odds that you will have a pleasant old age ---children or no children .
2. You will have nothing to look forward to ---life will be boring ...Time and again i have seen many people who are "too busy " to have a family life though they are married . Again i have seen some people who dont have any altruistic interests . Not only the great personalities listed above , i have seen all the unmarried people i know having greater interest in social wellbeing and uplift . And in doing so they have something to look forward to .
3. Unmarried people have major commitment issues ... This rewinds me back an year or two when i used to know two people . One person confided in me that she is very unhappy that her husband is repeatedly getting committed to colleagues inspite of being "happily " married . In another case it is the woman who is getting "committed " to outside forces . My point is , these are not isolated siberian cranes .
4 . Companionship ........... I am not an anti-marriage activist and this point i agree . In an ideal marriage ( i have seen some ) its great companionship . But to these lecturers , i show them many (yes there are many ) examples of "happily married " people who are actually in it for to put it bluntly -- married because they tied the knot . Due to the stigma of divorce in indian society and because even nowadays women put up a lot to preserve the marital bond --some of these "marriages" survive .. In the west they call these loveless marriages . So companionship being an ideal goal cannot be included in the lecture ...
5. In our religion it is cumpulsory ---hmm ... the same religion tells how a woman should be treated .Is it being followed ? . And the finer things like men can marry four while women only one --- i cannot logically agree .
On a lighter note , all married people were in the unmarried state before, so should not force bachelors to marry by giving long lectures with partially valid points .
And regarding myself again : I am in no way an anti-marriage proponent but against the hypocrisy going around surrounding many marriages and the boring lectures i get . One thing is sure --whether i get married or remain unmarried i will not kill anyone --- with boring lectures .
please comment ...
regards
haroon