Womens day little thoughts

What one word describes a woman ?  For me at least its the word "give "  .  From my grandmother to mother to aunt to friends who are girls i find one common factor is they give more than they receive . 

Even when you look at nature ( i am a fan of animal planet )  even predatory lionesses give more than they receive . Be it childcare or hunting women disproportionately contribute . Whether it is fully acknowledged by soceity is another question . 

Even in the liberalised west , and even in the case of women doctors in the west study after study shows women not only juggle workplace , childcare as well as home . Actually i was surprised to read because i thought only in india women beared the brunt of this juggling and i really thought the western women made sure that men did exactly 50 percent of their share .  

In a country like india , there is no beating around the bush in saying that inspite of all the progress still theres a lot to go in giving the woman the recognition  for what she is doing . Many top managers these days are women even in india . They are represented in the professions . But it is surprising inspite of the progress if you consider india as a whole where current status of women lies . 

It starts from birth with the skewed sex ratio . Not wanting a girl child . As they say statistics dont lie . In childhood and teenage years and beyond inspite of laws protecting her the risk of abuse as well as rape . Delhi rape was just the tip of the iceberg which held the attention of the world . Then the institution of marriage itself . Lets be honest . India has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world . Its not because of some ideal relationship between indian men and indian women . To put it bluntly many dont divorce because even in this 21 st century after divorce women are treated much more unfairly than men . So they put up with all the abuses within marriage to save their face in front of soceity. 

All these years they continue to "give " not only to the family but the soceity at large . 

                                                                          I sincerely hope we all give women at least the acknowledgement of what they do instead of seeing their jugglery. Just an appreciation which is sincere to the women in your lives beyond the courtesy happy womens day . No happy womens day from me ... lets correct the skewed sex ratio first and then talk .

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Lessons from rottweiler dog --- boundaries

These days i see a lot of animal videos  and read up on dog breeds . The cute ones , the documentaries etc etc . But i found one important lesson from one of the famous breeds of dogs the rottweiler .

Rottweilers were originally dogs which were used to herd cattle the large horned variety many times its size . For a dog to control a large herd of unruly cattle it mainly uses body language and posturing . Seldom does it resort to biting if at all . By assertive and firm behaviour it makes sure  the boundaries of herding are not violated . Of course it also protects herd from intruders and wild animals .

Be it professional life or personal life anyone can vouch there are some difficult people we have to deal with . Most people approach these people with a flight approach or if really brave a fight approach . But experience shows both doesnt work well in the long run . Its here that the concept of "boundaries " which is also mentioned in psychology is important .

Each person has a boundary psychologically especially in the things they are comfortable with , their value system etc . Difficult people who make up a minority often try to violate these personal boundaries of others . In professional life they could be a difficult boss or a coworker , and in personal life could be a relative or a "friend " . It is difficult indeed to deal with them but saying a polite but firm no is important in many situations .

From dealing with the bully in school who stopped his bullying on one fateful day when i just stood my ground to one of the coworker who was difficult person for most but less for me because i used to say the greatest number of polite nos , the upkeep and maintenance of personal boundaries is very important . It saves lots of our time in long run as well as enhances self esteem . Do i remind you of a rottweiler . Rottweiler or rottie is one of my favorite dog breeds ( the well bred ones )  and yes the concept of boundaries whenever i think about i get reminded of a rottweiler herding the horned cattle .