Yesterday night i met my cousins cousins in mumbai . After pleasantries two of them told they are reading my blog . I was happy and one of them commented that my blog is about travel . I told her though some are about travel its primarily about my viewpoints or little thoughts . And today i was reading a blog of a cousin of mine in which she has discussed in detail her personal life . Though in this increasingly diplomatic world being honest your feelings and thoughts maybe inadvisable(depending on your perspective) i firmly believe at least in my case that is the best way to be really "human " with all its many positives and as many negatives .
So to make myself clear to my cousins cousin todays blog is neither about travel nor about food . Its about relationships .You must all have read the famous story of two friends and the bear .
Vijay and Raju were friends. On a holiday they went into a forest. They were enjoying the beauty of nature. Suddenly they saw a bear coming at them. They were frightened.
Raju who knew climbing trees ran up to a tree and climbed up quickly. He did not think of Vijay. Vijay did not know tree climbing.
Vijay thought for a second. He had heard animals do not prefer dead bodies. He fell to the ground and held his breath. The bear sniffed him and thought he was dead. So, he went away.
Raju asked Vijay," What did the bear whisper into your ears?”
Vijay replied, "The bear asked me to keep away from friends like you" and went on his way.
Just like any story in childhood i never took it seriously . But as i grew up i understood why this story was very important for it taught me how to judge relationships not by their number but by their strength or depth . And life for most or rather all of us throws enough challenges in our path where though we have to face it ourselves a friend or a relative can come in handy . But this is where the problem comes . Its not when the going is good that we are able to judge a true friend or a relative but when a crisis comes . Unfortunately for many the first crisis will be the worst because in addition to the crisis you realise that most of your friends and relatives are not friends but " just fellow travellers ".Like our Raju and Vijay in the story , when crisis strikes we , if we are observant , realise who are our real friends and relatives are . Though that process is quite painful , that understanding will help us deal with the future challenges in life in a much better way .
Even seemingly unrelated mechanical things like cars tell the same story . Imagine for a moment you have two cars to test -- a maruti engine fitted in a bmw and a bmw engine fitted in a maruti (dont go over the technicals assume its possible ) . At steady speeds of 40 kms per hour there wont be any major difference .
Suddenly you see a wild elephant in your rearview mirror charging at 70 km per hour and quite close . You press down the accelerator hard . Any difference ? Here though meek looking the bmw engined one will reach 300 kmph and save you from the wild elephant . Recently one of my friends who has 1000+ friends in facebook came to me when he had a crisis . We were able to discuss it and in the end i casually asked him didnt you mention this to any of your "friends" . He replied he didnt have any real friend . His is not an isolated case . So for those who are still reading this blog this far , let us be a real friend /relative for our friends . And let us not count our relationships by numbers ---unless we are planning to stand for election .
Comments are welcome
dr haroon marikar
So to make myself clear to my cousins cousin todays blog is neither about travel nor about food . Its about relationships .You must all have read the famous story of two friends and the bear .
Vijay and Raju were friends. On a holiday they went into a forest. They were enjoying the beauty of nature. Suddenly they saw a bear coming at them. They were frightened.
Raju who knew climbing trees ran up to a tree and climbed up quickly. He did not think of Vijay. Vijay did not know tree climbing.
Vijay thought for a second. He had heard animals do not prefer dead bodies. He fell to the ground and held his breath. The bear sniffed him and thought he was dead. So, he went away.
Raju asked Vijay," What did the bear whisper into your ears?”
Vijay replied, "The bear asked me to keep away from friends like you" and went on his way.
Just like any story in childhood i never took it seriously . But as i grew up i understood why this story was very important for it taught me how to judge relationships not by their number but by their strength or depth . And life for most or rather all of us throws enough challenges in our path where though we have to face it ourselves a friend or a relative can come in handy . But this is where the problem comes . Its not when the going is good that we are able to judge a true friend or a relative but when a crisis comes . Unfortunately for many the first crisis will be the worst because in addition to the crisis you realise that most of your friends and relatives are not friends but " just fellow travellers ".Like our Raju and Vijay in the story , when crisis strikes we , if we are observant , realise who are our real friends and relatives are . Though that process is quite painful , that understanding will help us deal with the future challenges in life in a much better way .
Even seemingly unrelated mechanical things like cars tell the same story . Imagine for a moment you have two cars to test -- a maruti engine fitted in a bmw and a bmw engine fitted in a maruti (dont go over the technicals assume its possible ) . At steady speeds of 40 kms per hour there wont be any major difference .
Suddenly you see a wild elephant in your rearview mirror charging at 70 km per hour and quite close . You press down the accelerator hard . Any difference ? Here though meek looking the bmw engined one will reach 300 kmph and save you from the wild elephant . Recently one of my friends who has 1000+ friends in facebook came to me when he had a crisis . We were able to discuss it and in the end i casually asked him didnt you mention this to any of your "friends" . He replied he didnt have any real friend . His is not an isolated case . So for those who are still reading this blog this far , let us be a real friend /relative for our friends . And let us not count our relationships by numbers ---unless we are planning to stand for election .
Comments are welcome
dr haroon marikar
No comments:
Post a Comment